This blog post is a part of my What to Do When You’re Triggered series. Sign up for future reflections in your inbox and get free access to Beyond Blame — a workshop on transforming conflict into connection. When I am in deep conflict with someone (usually a partner), it can become incredibly difficult to remember the things I love about them, and the human being they are beyond and within this conflict. When I have been hurt, frustrated or disappointed repeatedly, I begin to build a story...

Sorry can be hard to give because it may feel like admitting we are wrong, bad or entirely to blame. It can be hard to receive when we do not trust what it means or where it comes from. We may find ourselves reassuring the person apologising, or feeling that the word is replacing any real acknowledgement of what happened.

How to pause, check your capacity and find more choice before disconnection takes over This blog post is a part of my What to Do When You’re Triggered series. Sign up for future reflections in your inbox and get free access to Beyond Blame — a workshop on transforming conflict into connection. A simple toolkit to support you before conflict hijacks your ability to choose wisely. One of the simplest tools my partner and I have used in conflict is a traffic-light system. Green means I feel...