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Covid19 has seen so many changes in households, families and relationships, as we find ourselves stuck together under one roof which can easily bring tension, anger, pain and frustration to the surface and to a point that we can no longer ignore our fundamental needs or the grudges confessions and stories of pain that we hold between us. Compassionate communication has really changed the way that I have conversations with my family and the people that matter to me. It has rea

What are you most afraid of sharing with other people? Those things that you would love to say but feel so afraid of how you will be seen or if it is safe for you to do so.. those moments when you really wish that someone would welcome you as you are, with all your deepest fears and longings without being judged or reassured or told to change.... Today and this week I am noticing one of my oldest childhood “core beliefs” about myself which comes as a voice that says “I am stu

You know when you do or say something that you regret and then you either get that horrible queasy feeling of guilt or shame in your stomach or heart and then you can’t stop thinking about it and how you should have done it differently… (so blaming yourself basically) OR you start to feel sorry for yourself, thinking it's not fair! Why does this always happen to me? Other people keep doing X to me.. It's not fair! I know i can recognise both scenarios in myself.. I remember m

What do I really want?.. how I connect with my inner world to find clarity.. Do you find yourself confused, frustrated or disconnected? Wishing you could find a sense of purpose, direction, contentment or trust in yourself? OR maybe you want to communicate what you need with your loved ones, colleagues or friends? This video is about how self connection and self care is the first step I take towards finding the meaning and purpose in my own life and the first step towards hav

Do you get stuck in your relationships? Find yourself compromising or doing things to keep each other happy, even if it doesn't work for you? OR Frustrated when your partner / child / friend does go along with your suggestions and you tell yourself that they don't care? Both of the above options were familiar scenarios I often found myself in.. Yet when I compromise or give in to keep others happy or when I make demands that leave no space for people to say NO to me, I know v

Just like every one of you reading this right now, I too have all sorts of thoughts and judgment or opinions and beliefs about the right way to do things and the wrong way to do things.. I have idea's about how relationships should look like and how people should behave. I have thoughts about how I should be different and how I am not enough. Because I am a human being who has grown up in a culture that teaches me to think in these ways - to label, analys, criticize and deny

“Ugh.. he’s such a pussy.. Look at him.. He is so weak..” These were words I would hear the boys saying about each other at school when one of them would cry or chose not to fight back. I went to a school in London where fights in the park were an everyday event. Where kids had learnt that they needed to fight for acceptance, fight to feel safe and a part of the tribe, fighting to stay alive. One day on the bus on the way to school, I remember seeing “D” sitting in the middle

Many of us humans really enjoy a good old gossip about the unfortunate and silly lives of other humans (of course not our own), or a chance to have a proper whinge* about our horrible bosses together OR the opportunity to blame someone else for their terrible idea’s and behaviours as we act the moral police without their knowing. And you might be reading this either in full acknowledgement that you do enjoy the above rituals, or perhaps you're noticing that although you might

My emotions change as fast as the wind is blowing outside my window.. I woke up this morning with a deep insecurity and a sense of aloneness.. Wondering how I will make it through today… I sat on my balcony and connected to the sensation of the wind on my face and the beauty of the crisp clarity as I looked out onto the sea and the rocks and the mountains of islands in front of me.. My whole body is connected and I feel alive, present, with me.. I turn on my computer to start

Today we looked into each other’s eyes in a different way than we have ever done before. Today we held each other in tears of grief as we recounted our unrealised dreams together. Today we stood barefoot on the hot earth and buried our rings with our bare hands, tears wetting the earth and our sandy fingers. Today we held each other on a pile of clothes and books ready to be packed away and moved out. Today we imagined the possible personalities and faces of the 2 babies we h