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Sometimes we know, in theory, how we want to communicate.
We want to stay open.
We want to listen.
We want to express ourselves clearly.
We want to respond rather than react.
And then something happens.
A tone.
A look.
A repeated argument.
A moment of feeling dismissed, criticised, pressured, abandoned or unseen.
Suddenly the tools feel far away.
You might find yourself defending, explaining, shutting down, attacking, pleasing, withdrawing, going blank, trying to fix everything, or replaying the conversation for hours afterwards.
This work is for those moments.
Not as a quick fix.
Not as a script for getting communication “right.”
But as a space to slow down, understand what is happening underneath the reaction, and begin to find more clarity, steadiness and choice.
30 min
Free
A 3–6 session starting point
Clarity in Sticky Places is a focused starting point for individuals, couples, family members or people in difficult relational dynamics who want support with the patterns they keep getting caught in.
We can begin with 3–6 sessions, giving us enough time to explore what is happening, what tends to take over, and what might support a different kind of conversation or response.
For some people, this may be enough.
For others, it may become the beginning of a longer-term piece of work.
We can review together as we go.
This might be for you if…
You keep having the same argument, even when you both want things to change.
You feel clear before a conversation, but lose access to yourself once you’re in it.
You notice yourself getting defensive, critical, frozen, overwhelmed, pleasing or avoidant.
You struggle to express what you really feel or need without either collapsing or becoming forceful.
You want to understand your own triggers without blaming yourself for having them.
You need support preparing for, processing, or returning to a tricky conversation.
What we might explore together
Depending on what you bring, our work may include:
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what happens in your body and nervous system when you get triggered
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the protective patterns that take over in conflict
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the feelings, needs, fears and meanings underneath your reactions
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clearer language for what you want to express
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requests, boundaries or next steps that feel grounded and honest
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more capacity to stay connected to yourself in relational tension
The work is practical, but not formulaic.
We may use reflection, enquiry, embodied awareness, Nonviolent Communication, relational coaching, parts work, nervous-system awareness and communication practice.
The aim is not to become perfectly calm or perfectly skilled.
The aim is to understand yourself more deeply, meet the places where you get caught with more compassion and honesty, and begin to create more choice in the moments that matter.
How it works
We begin with a free discovery call.
This gives us a chance to speak about what you’re looking for, what support might be useful, and whether this work feels like the right fit.
From there, we can decide together whether to begin with 3 sessions, 6 sessions, or another arrangement that makes sense.
Sessions can be for:
1:1 support
For individuals wanting to understand their own patterns, triggers, choices and communication.
Relationship support
For couples or two people who want support to have clearer, more honest and compassionate conversations.
Difficult conversations or mediation-style support
For family members, co-parents, friends, colleagues or others who want a supported space to talk through something difficult.
Pricing
You’re welcome to begin with a 3-session or 6-session block, depending on what feels most supportive.
1:1 support (60 mins)
3 sessions: £165
6 sessions: £300
Ongoing sessions: £65–£95 per hour (Pay what you can)
Couples, relationship support or mediation-style sessions (90 mins)
3 sessions: £365
6 sessions: £700
Ongoing sessions: £140–£200 per session (Pay what you can)
If cost is a concern or barrier to you accessing this work, you’re welcome to raise this on the discovery call and we can explore what may be possible between us.
30 min
Free
Read the series: What to Do When You’re Triggered
If you’ve landed here and you are keen to start exploring your patterns OR you’re not ready to book a call yet, you may find it helpful to begin with the free writing and practices in my current series:
What to Do When You’re Triggered
This series explores what happens when we lose access to our tools in conflict, why our protective patterns take over, and how we can begin to return to choice, clarity and connection.
Start here:
What to Do When You’re Triggered
Start learning now
Sign up for the free course: Beyond Blame
If you’d like to start learning now, you can sign up for my free online course, Beyond Blame: The Key to Real Connection. You’ll get full access to the course straight away, and you’ll also receive my weekly newsletter, where I’ll be sharing more from the What to Do When You’re Triggered series, including tools, reflections and ideas to support you in real-life moments of conflict and disconnection.
These resources are offered as free support, reflection and practice. I’m passionate about helping people explore these patterns, whether or not they ever choose to work with me. Please access and share them freely.
And yet, if you recognise yourself in them and want more personal support with the real-life patterns you keep getting caught in, you are welcome to book a free discovery call to see how we can work together.
A note on this work
This work is not therapy, and it is not a replacement for therapeutic, medical or crisis support.
It can be a powerful space for reflection, communication, emotional awareness and relational clarity, but it may not be suitable for every situation.
If there is active abuse, coercive control, serious mental health crisis, or a lack of willingness from one person to participate responsibly, we would need to consider carefully whether this is the right kind of support.
The discovery call helps us explore this together.
30 min
Free