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Ever feel like you're the one always seeking connection in your relationship? It can be frustrating when it seems like your partner isn't as interested in spending time together as you are. But have you ever wondered what's behind your need for closeness and connection? In this blog post, we'll dive into what connection truly means for us humans, why it's essential, and how understanding your need for connection can transform your relationship with yourself and others, by sup

Sometimes, when I take a moment and really breathe in the state of our world, it's almost too much to bear. Like many of you, I've found myself caught in a whirlwind of emotions - anger, frustration, hopelessness, fear and anxiety around how to even approach the separation  and pain that is unfolding in the world. Watching the news, reading about conflicts, and even witnessing disagreements amongst my loved ones and between myself and close friends, I sometimes Imagine that w

How can we love one another in the ways that truly resonate with our hearts desires? Understanding my Love Language and fostering an open dialogue about my desires, has truly transformed my ability to receive and give love in exactly the ways that makes mine and my partners body, hearts and minds tingle with the bonds of intimacy. By approaching your partner with genuine curiosity and a commitment to clear communication, you can build bridges of intimacy that enrich and stren

Plugging in.. Listening... To the resonance or life Moving through me, Living in me, Connecting me to the pulsating web of creation.. The energy of life that speaks through my skin, Through your eyes, Through our words, Through moving in silence, Through the vibration of sound, The intensity of taste, The pleasure of touch, The wisdom of pain, Connecting with this flow of life, That we are all a part of.. That is the essence of my work.. Communication is just 1 way for me to

“ to connect in a way that makes natural giving possible” These are the first words that Marshal Rosenberg says in this video of him giving a live workshop in San Francisco on Non- Violent Communication. And a quote that was at the top of my website for many years:  ' What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart .' And that is really what NVC is all about to me. How can I give myself to you from the heart? How

This is not the first time that I have mentioned the topic of Guilt in my weekly news letters to you. (If you have been listening to my Podcast then you may have listened to the last episode that was published called : The Power of Transforming Guilt into Presence and Compassion: ) It has been a powerful and transformation, albeit uncomfortable, familiar and often debilitating emotion to connect with and experience (sometimes relentlessly) over the course of my existence as a

Embodying NVC philosophy + Intentions If you have been exploring the work of Nonviolent Communication (OR Compassionate and Authentic Relating as I like to call it) for a while now, and you notice that there are some really clunky parts to this method that are not working smoothly for you. Then welcome to being human! It is very likely that as you try to integrate your learning and the skills that you value from this “method”, that you can fall into a performative way of list

4 ways to support important conversations to flow Sticking together is the ultimate goal of all relationships right? What we all long for is a sense of belonging, to know that we are truly there for one another. To trust that we are welcomed and accepted by the ones that we love and that they too feel safe in our company, knowing that ultimately we love and care for one another beyond judgments, arguments and misconceptions. So it is no wonder that when you talk about importa

That vulnerable moment of hurt, annoyance, confusion, anxiety and often insecurity that comes when you have just shared something very important with someone and you get the impression that they didn't quite get the importance of what you just shared, they “misheard” you or got distracted, or went into expressing themselves instead. It can be devastating and extremely frustrating, especially if this happens often and repeatedly, with the people that you love and feel closest

How to sort through the many voices in your head! If you, like me, have been tortured in the night by the numerous voices that plague your brain with the various angles, perspectives, opinions and options that you should take when facing uncertainty in a relationship with someone you love or deeply care about. Well then you know the twisting pangs of anxiety, the sometimes sleepless nights and the distraction from your work and other areas of life, that these reactions can so

The tragedy of expectation: Unfortunately I have learnt the hard way, that when I expect my loved ones to act, react and behave in exactly the way that I want them to, then I find them moving further away from my heart and less likely to act in the way the way that I was hoping for. I painfully remember a time when I really wanted my partner to respond to my messages “more quickly” during a particularly difficult period in my life. I wanted his attention, care and support to

"We are asking one person to give us, what once an entire village used to provide" say's Esther Perel.    The model of 2 people (plus the kids), has become the "norm" in our modern, western society and culture. I enjoy the idea of a family nest with parents and children living under 1 roof and so by sharing this quote with you, I am not suggesting that this model is "wrong" or "bad", I simply connect with the wisdom and learning that we can take from Esther's perspective.    

How to master clear, honest, compassionate conversations between you and the people you love! Frustration is often the first sign that you are not connecting with the person in front of you in a way that feels good or supports you both to be heard and understood.. These are 5 common “mistakes” I come across regularly in relationship dynamics and which can get in the way of actually connecting to your partner, friend, family member, co-work er… The good news is that you can do

I used to think that relationships had to be hard.. I gave into the relentlessness of it all and just thought, this is the hard work I have to sign up to in order to be rewarded with love. The arguments, misunderstandings and misalignment of interests just came as a part of the package for me. I didn’t know any different, I hadn't experienced or seen many relationships where partners are joyfully connecting with each other, where they take responsibility and ask for what they

Arguing with your partner can be very frustrating.. It can feel like you are getting nowhere or brushing things under the carpet just so that you can move on from the discomfort of confrontation and not really hearing each other...  If this is you, you are not alone! Arguing is what we do when we are trying to communicate something that is important to each of us, at the same time. It happens when we don't know how to express ourselves in a way that the other person can hear

If you are feeling frustrated because you are fed up with asking and reminding your partner to do the dishes or spend some quality time together, or perhaps help out with the kids, talk about finances or understand something that is super important to you.. I really get how exhausted and alone you might be feeling in those moments. It can "feel" as if you are not being seen, respected or considered by your partner and this can easily lead to resentment and essentially argumen

Do you find yourself wishing that your partner would just do x/y/z differently.. if only they could just be more... (download FREE Self Connection guide - link at bottom of description) Or that you see how much "potential" they have.. The potential to be more successful / loving / active / have more friends.. etc.. And you are waiting for the day when the become more.. so that you can relax into being in relationship with them fully? This is 1 of the common places where we ca

Are you dating and waiting for them to respond to your message..? Feeling stressed and excited about what they might say.. and when or if they liked your msg or not? Or perhaps your in a relationship. And so when your partner or new love interest doesn't answer your messages for a few hours / a day.. You start to freak out.. or get excited and hope they respond really soon.. So that you know that they still like you So that you know that you matter enough to them.. So that yo

When you sit with a friend in pain,  when their world no longer makes sense; when confusion rages and no rest is to be found. Just for a moment, will you resist the temptation to make things better, to reassure them, to provide answers, e ven to heal them? Will you offer your stillness, your listening, your presence, and the warmth of your immediacy? Will you hold them in your heart, with the same tenderness of a mother holding her little one? Will you embrace them where they

Over the lockdown period I have had the chance to revisit the core of my NVC practice  Self Connection I have found that guided meditations have really supported me in finding that empathy and connection with myself, bringing me closer to understanding my own inner world and the feelings and needs that drive me. I have started recording some guided meditations for self connection to share in the hope that they will support you in your own self connection rituals. These medita